Is your past dictating your future?

Posted on August 1, 2021
Archive : August 2021
Category : Ripples Blog

Is your past impacting your future?

I particularly want to focus on past emotions, the ones that raise their heads time and time again.   Do you know the ones I am talking about?



Grab a pen and paper and find a quiet corner and think about this question for a while - don't rush it.   Keep asking yourself the same question "do my emotions from the past impact on my future?"   I wonder what you will find?

For many people you will discover that what we label as traumatic emotional events will come up first on the list.   If something 'bad' has happened to you then it is natural to avoid that particular thing happening again.  What if its a messy divorce, or a really bad break-up, someone has cheated on you, broken your trust, a friend has hurt you or let you down.   All these things lead to us adapting our behaviour.  If you let these incidents dwell with you long after they have taken place what happens?  You don't trust anyone?  You are cautious about making new friends, new relationships?   You 'ditch' people at the first sign of problems? 

Some of the above may be absolutely sensible for you - I cannot know what you have gone through or how bad it was.   However, emotions have a way of protecting us too much at times.  Is it realistic that you will never be hurt again, lied to, disappointed?  Of course not, life happens, these things are all part of everyday life.    What really matters is how we deal with them internally, it's a time for personal growth and learning  resilience in adversity.   You can choose to lock yourself away and never see anyone again but even the life of a hermit may be one that's a bit extreme.   Even hermits need food deliveries - what if someone lets them down, do they never eat again?   Ridiculous statement, but you get the point.

Living our lives is all about relationships and learning.   We are in relationship with so many different people, institutions, workplaces, etc., we cannot avoid it.   So is it time for you to evaluate the emotions that are holding you back.   If you didn't do the exercise at the start of this article why not do it now?   It doesn't need to be a traumatic event, but anything that changes what you do which really impacts you.   Have you stopped going to a group you really enjoy because of one person you want to avoid?  Are there family members you have 'fallen out' with and you are digging your heals in waiting for them to apologise?

I am not going to tell you what to do, you wouldn't listen anyway would you?   All I am saying is if your past emotions are impacting your present or future in a negative way there is only one person feeling hurt here - you.  So what do you want to do about it?

In the Self Mastery Course we tackle these issues - but its all about self-discovery and you making the choices for your life.  There are no MUSTs - you decide.

I will leave that one with you ....I just want you to be happy as you live this life of ups and downs as there are many more to come ...

Namaste

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